Hello friends, welcome to our new exciting page, Kingz Country!
I’m so excited that you are here and hope you enjoy our story and embark in this adventure to grow with us!
I wanted to start my first blog by telling you about myself, my family and how we got to where we are now.
Originally from Washington state I moved to Tennessee in 2017 with my daughter, Olivia and my now ex-husband. Shortly thereafter I began working in the jail with a local Sheriff’s Office. This happens to also be where I met my now husband (you’d be surprised how many people I know got married after meeting in the jail).
Back to us later, in Washington I grew up in a busy city environment where everyone is always go, go, go and your neighbors are within spitting distance. My father was in the military after he retired he became a police officer, my mother worked in retail until she was able to become a teacher. I have two younger sisters, one who’s two years younger and one who is 15 years younger (for some reason people thought she was my daughter after she was born). Some things about me; I love reading, mystery, serial killers and horror movies. I have four tattoos, gauges and love dying my hair crazy colors (which now that I am staying home it will become purple again soon enough).
After graduating high school in 2010 I knew I wanted to do something in public service, I had been a fire cadet throughout high school and decided to get my Associates in Criminal Justice. After I received my degree in 2013, I began working full time in a lumber mill while also applying to local police departments. During this time I got married (2014) and found out I was pregnant with my daughter Olivia (2015).
I was able to stay home with Olivia and experience all her milestones. I struggled with postpartum depression (which I didn’t know) and didn’t feel that I was getting any support from my husband, which is probably where our problems really began. He left for three months when Olivia was 4 months old, for training in Georgia. He would call and talk about his training then tell these stories about him going out to the bars with his friends every weekend. I felt completely alone and at times I couldn’t stand being a mom or even being alive, it was a rough time and I was scared to tell anyone for being judged because I was always the “tough girl”. I worked through those feelings after a few months and was able to really start enjoying my life and the time with my daughter but also resented my husband because he was able to be outside during work then began going out with his friends whenever he could. I begged for his attention and wanted us to go to counseling, both of which he refused. In 2017 he wanted us to try and start over and move to Tennessee, I said yes hoping things would change between us but knowing our problems still weren’t actually fixed.
When I began training with the Sheriff’s Department my husband and I only spoke when I it came to our daughter. He believed that I cared more about my job than him and my daughter, when in reality this was the first time in over two years that I felt like a real person and that I could begin to make a difference. After 10 months of being in Tennessee and our relationship still not improving, he finally asked to go to counseling. I agreed to go but I was also past wanting to really fix us. We fought all the time and at times he would get so mad he’d throw or break things, knowing I’d back down from whatever we were fighting about to let him win.
Enter Hawken! We met one day when I got assigned to train him for his last day before he would be allowed to work alone. After that day we became friends. I knew he was younger (didn’t know how much younger haha) than me and really wasn’t looking for anything from anyone; I was married, unhappy but still married. He was someone I could talk to about my relationship and feel like I wasn’t crazy. In September my husband and I officially separated. Hawken and I still talked all the time, we became really great friends. He knew how unhappy I was and asked if I wanted to leave my husband, I wanted to leave but I was in a new state with no family around and honestly was afraid of the uncertainty. I was able to find my own place and moved out in November 2018, this was the first time I had ever lived alone. Around the same time that I separated with my husband, Hawken had broken up with his girlfriend. While we were still friends during this time we didn’t begin to date until December 2018.
As many of you know Hawken and I are now married and have a little girl together as well. Seeing that this original post was longer than I expected, there will be even more on our exciting life in “Our Story: Part Two”.
Thank you all for starting this journey!
💙❤️ Tomi ❤️💙
Kingz Country 
One thought on “Our Story: Part One”